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Women experience more emotional pain following a breakup,
but they also recover fully as compared to men, according to a new global
survey which included respondents from India.
Researchers from Binghamton University in New York and
University College London asked 5,705 participants in 96 countries to rate the
emotional and physical pain of a breakup on a scale of one (none) to 10
(unbearable).
The five countries with the most respondents were the US (63
per cent), India (7 per cent), Canada (5 per cent), and the UK and Germany (3
per cent) each. Researchers found that women tend to be more negatively
affected by breakups, reporting higher levels of both physical and emotional
pain. Women averaged 6.84 in terms of emotional anguish versus 6.58 in men. In
terms of physical pain, women averaged 4.21 versus men's 3.75.
While breakups hit women the hardest emotionally and
physically, they women tend to recover more fully and come out emotionally
stronger. Men, on the other hand, never fully recover — they simply move on,
researchers said. According to Craig Morris, research associate at Binghamton
University and lead author of the study, the differences boil down to biology.
Women have more to lose by dating the wrong person.
"Put simply, women are evolved to invest far more in a
relationship than a man," Morris said.
"A brief romantic encounter could lead to nine months
of pregnancy followed by many years of lactation for an ancestral woman, while
the man may have 'left the scene' literally minutes after the encounter, with
no further biological investment.
"It is this 'risk' of higher biological investment
that, over evolutionary time, has made women choosier about selecting a
high-quality mate. Hence, the loss of a relationship with a high-quality mate
'hurts' more for a woman," Morris said.
Conversely, as men have evolved to compete for the romantic
attention of women, the loss of a high-quality mate for a man may not
"hurt" as much at first, Morris said.
"The man will likely feel the loss deeply and for a
very long period of time as it 'sinks in' that he must 'start competing' all
over again to replace what he has lost — or worse still, come to the
realisation that the loss is irreplaceable," he said.
Morris said that breakups are important because most of us
will experience an average of three by age 30, with at least one affecting us
strongly enough that it substantially decreases our quality of life for weeks
or months.
"People lose jobs, students withdraw from classes, and
individuals can initiate extremely self-destructive behaviour patterns
following a breakup," he said.
"With better understanding of this emotional and
physical response to a breakup — post relationship grief — we can perhaps develop
a way to mitigate its effects in already high-risk individuals," he added.
The study was published in the journal Evolutionary
Behavioral Sciences.
