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Wednesday, May 20, 2015

Online Harassers

How to handle your online harassers
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In the world of social networking, it is difficult to keep things private. A Facebook post where a student in Delhi posted a screenshot of the lewd messages sent to her by a married man is another eye-opener to the fact that sexual exploitation of women is not limited to the streets.

According to a recent report on cyber crimes released by the Associated Chambers of Commerce and Industry of India, cyber crimes are likely to cross 3,00,000 in 2015, almost double the number from last year. However, the latest figures released by the National Crimes Record Bureau (NCRB) state that there were only 54 cases of cyber offences registered in Tamil Nadu in 2013.

The main reason behind this, according to S Jeyakumar, Deputy Commissioner, Central Crime Branch, is the growing awareness about cyber crime among women of the state. "We have been conducting programmes in schools, colleges and workplaces, educating people, espe cially women, about how to be safe and avoid falling prey to various cyber offences. Unlike earlier times, now, offenders know that they face imprisonment for as long as 3-7 years if they try to breach into someone's privacy or send sexually explicit content," he informs."However, it is also important for women to speak up and bring it to our notice whenever they receive any offensive content on the internet or are being harassed on the cyber arena. They should never ignore any lewd comments or messages that they receive from anybody on cyber space, and they must bring it to our notice immediately ," he adds.

While there is considerable amount of awareness among the city's women, Harshita Venugopal, a city-based activist who has been working to create awareness on crimes against women, says that the scenario in rural Tamil Nadu is different. "There have been a lot of cases of cyber stalking and revenge porn where the victim, in an attempt to avoid attention from the media, has settled the matter out of court.A lot of women prefer to do that. This solves the problem temporarily . In majority of the cases, the offender strikes back. So, it is important for the government to spread awareness about laws against cyber crimes in the rural areas of the state also, so that women there come forward and report the cases," she says.

According to Venugopal, in cases of revenge porn, the fear of stigma makes women reluctant to go to the court. Also, the fact that, most often, the offender is an acquaintance of the victim -a former lover, colleague, relative or friendt u r n e d f o e."Irrespective of who the offender is, the victim should come forward and file an FIR against the miscreant," she says.

It is not only important to be aware of the legalities of cyber crimes but also imperative to be alert and have foolproof privacy settings on social networking sites. "One must be cautious about what content he or she is sharing online. Do not share intimate pictures and messages on cyber space as it is extremely dangerous. While there is nothing wrong in using social networking sites, utilizing their privacy settings is always helpful. And once the crime has been committed, it is important to bring it to the notice of the police so that necessary action can be taken," informs inspector Melwyn of cyber crime department.

Renowned cyber law expert, Pavan Duggal, on the other hand, calls for cyber crime education to be included in school curriculum. "If the government wants to create a digital India, it is their responsibility and biggest challenge to make the country cyber crime-free. As users, our responsibility is to have a proactive look in protecting ourselves. As family members, we must first equip our children with life skills before giving them cell phones," he says.

SOME DO'S AND DON'TS

Activate privacy settings and give limited access to your personal data. Do not add strangers to your profile. In case you receive any lewd messages or comments, inform the police. You can send screenshots to, cop@bsnl.net and let them know about the situation. Copy the URL of the post. It will help in tracking the offender. Don't give your device to others and always lock your applications.

Tuesday, May 19, 2015

Makeup

7 Mistakes You Make Removing Makeup
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1. You skip removing your makeup all together.
Even if you only wear a little BB cream every day, leaving that makeup on can have harmful effects on your skin. During the night, your skin regenerates itself. But if your pores are still filled with makeup, they're not able to breathe and renew. Plus, clogged pores can lead to blackheads and acne.

2. You wash your face after you remove your makeup.
Try cleansing your skin while you still have makeup on, being careful not to smear your mascara onto your skin. Then, when you go to remove your makeup, there will be less to remove and you'll get a deeper clean.

3. You rub your mascara off quickly.
Have eye makeup under your eyes when you wake up? That's because you didn't take the time to remove it all properly. Soak a cotton pad in makeup remover or olive oil, and place it onto your eyelid for two to three minutes. It will break up even waterproof mascara, allowing you to wash it off without pulling at your eyes.

4. You only use makeup wipes.
They're great in a pinch, but makeup removing wipes aren't enough to really get all the gunk off your face and cleanse your skin. They really just remove the surface layer of makeup, so if possible, use an actual makeup remover on a cotton pad for a deep clean.

5. You wash your face with your hair down.
Putting your hair in a ponytail is more than just convenient. Having your hair off your face helps make sure you remove makeup along your hairline, too.

6. You swipe "up" while removing mascara.
Close your eyes, and gently pull down on your lashes. Always remove mascara the direction that your eyelashes grow, not the other way around. Pulling up on your lashes can damage them, causing breakage.

7. You remove your eye makeup first.

This is especially important for girls who love bold, stay-put lipstick. Remove your lipstick first by gently scrubbing your lips with a soaked cotton pad. That way, you won't smear the lipstick onto your skin, which can be tough to get off.

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Platonic Infidelity

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Not all infidelity is sexual, but the platonic variety can be more devastating to your relationship.
What if it isn’t lipstick on his collar as much as her number on his speed dial? Not all infidelity is sexual, but the platonic variety can be more devastating to your relationship. Here’s why.

When Rachita* Shah’s husband became distant both emotionally and physically, she feared he was having an affair. But all she could rely on were her instincts because there was no suspicious trail to follow. No unaccounted-for absences, no reports from friends about any other woman on the scene. Finally, one day, Rachita discovered chats on his laptop with a woman. “The endearments were flowing freely and, of course, hurtful conversations about how I was such a nag,” adds Rachita. “And when I confronted him, he was unfazed, as he claimed that she was just a friend and that I was being paranoid since they had never even slept together.”

IT’S EASIER TO HIDE
Dr Shirley P Glass says in her book Not “Just Friends”: Rebuilding Trust And Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity, “Whereas women tend to regard any sexual intimacy as infidelity, men are more likely to deny infidelity unless sexual intercourse has occurred.” Emotional infidelity is a kind of cheating that appears on the surface to be less harmful than physical infi delity, since the breach that occurs is subtle. According to Dr Sameer Malhotra, director, Department of Mental Health and Behavioural Sciences, Max Hospitals,“It’s serious because it means that your partner is communicating with someone else what he should be telling you. There is also a breach of trust and respect, since there is an element of secrecy that differentiates it from a genuine friendship.”

THE LINES ARE BLURRY
Since these affairs seem harmless, they can hide in plain sight—or on your newsfeed. With people spending more time online and at work than with their partners, the need for an emotional anchor outside the main relationship makes itself felt quickly and the solution is just a click—or cubicle—away. As Dr Glass explains, “…Friendships, work relationships, and Internet liaisons have become the latest threats to marriages. As these opportunities for intimate relationships increase, the boundary between platonic and romantic feelings blurs and becomes easier to cross.”

YOUR JOB HAS BEEN OUTSOURCED
One of the ways you know your partner is cheating on you is if he suddenly withdraws or excludes you from certain aspects of your life together. When 36-year-old lawyer
Bidita Banerjee’s* husband announced gleefully how he had reconnected with his schoolmates through a group on Facebook, she was unfazed. However, she started getting worried when she found her husband on Whats app with one of his old schoolmates all the time.“She was suddenly his greatest confidante. I was the outsider, while she was privy to all his thoughts and emotions.”

WHAT NOW?
If you and your partner have decided to put the affair behind you and move on, the first step is to repair your relationship. “Emotional infidelity often suggests that there are chinks in the marriage,” says Dr Malhotra. My experience has shown that less time spent together and a breakdown of communication is often fertile ground for such

affairs to flourish.”

Wednesday, May 6, 2015

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Tuesday, May 5, 2015

Royal Babies

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The New Princess
Prince William and the Duchess of Cambridge, Kate Middleton, welcome their newest child on May 








Prince George

In 2014. 



































Prince George
In 2014.






















 Prince Harry
With his mother, Princess Diana, in 1986. 































































Prince William and Prince Harry
With their mother, Princess Diana, in 1985.

 Prince William
With Princess Diana in 1983.







































 Prince Edward and Prince Andrew
In 1966.


Prince Edward and Prince Andrew
With their mother, Queen Elizabeth II, in 1965.

 Prince Andrew
With his mother, Queen Elizabeth II, in 1961.
































 Prince Andrew
With Prince Philip and Princess Anne in 1960.

 Princess Anne and Prince Charles
In 1954.

























 Prince Charles and Princess Anne
With their parents, Prince Philip and Queen Elizabeth II, in 1951.















 Princess Anne
With her mother, Queen Elizabeth II, in 1950.































Prince Charles
With his mother, Queen Elizabeth II, in 1948.

































 Princess Elizabeth (Later Queen Elizabeth II) and Princess Margaret
With their mother, Queen Elizabeth (a.k.a. the Duchess of York), circa 1931.


Princess Margaret and Princess Elizabeth (Later Queen Elizabeth II)
Circa 1932.

 Princess Margaret
In 1932.
































 Princess Margaret and Princess Elizabeth (Later Queen Elizabeth II)
With their mother, Queen Elizabeth (the Duchess of York), in 1930. 





















Princess Margaret
Circa 1930.




































 Princess Elizabeth (Later Queen Elizabeth II)
In 1927. 


































Princess Elizabeth (Later Queen Elizabeth II)
With her mother, Queen Elizabeth (the Duchess of York), in 1926.




































 Prince Henry
Circa 1904. 







































Prince George
In 1902.




































 Princess Mary, Prince Edward (Later King Edward VIII), and Prince Albert (Later King George VI)
Circa 1901. 

Prince Albert (Later King George VI) and Prince Edward (Later King Edward VIII)
Circa 1900.





































Prince Albert (Later King George VI), Princess Victoria, Prince Edward (Later King Edward VIII), and Prince Henry

With their grandmother, Queen Victoria, in 1900. 

Rupali Ganguly

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In less than 24 hours, Mumbai cops have managed to arrest the maid who stole jewellery and cash worth Rs 71 lakh from TV actress Rupali Ganguly's house. The woman was arrested late Thursday night from Vakola and almost 90 per cent of the stolen material has reportedly been recovered. Confirming the news, an elated Rupali Ganguly said, "I thank the Mumbai police from the bottom of my heart. Mr Pawar, Mr Mhatre, Mr Taral, Mr Jhende and Miss Shabnam of Versova police station were brilliant and super prompt. They were there with me throughout the night and took care of me like family. They immediately dispatched teams all over. Nitin Patil and Mr Koli of crime branch cell cracked the case. Kudos to them. Mr Mahesh Naik of crime branch, Bandra was of great help too."


On Wednesday, in a scene straight out of a Bolly potboiler, a 30-year-old woman posing as a domestic help got herself employed at Rupali Ganguly’s Andheri house and swept the flat clean of valuables worth Rs 71 lakh, including Rs 6 lakh in cash. The actress and her businessman husband had lodged an FIR with the Versova police station. Rupali said, “This woman, who identified herself as Sarita, appeared at my doorstep two days ago and requested for a job. When I asked for her ID proof, she said she will get it the next day and begged me to allow her to start work right away.” The actress then stepped out of home along with her husband and baby, leaving the house in charge of her two regular servants and Sarita. One of the servants is believed to have left soon after. Police suspect Sarita then locked herself in a room, ripped open a briefcase containing the jewellery, wore it while concealing it underneath her clothes and walked out. She apparently told the other servant that she would be back soon, but vanished without a trace. Rupali blames herself for the incident. “Honestly, it is my stupidity. My husband always used to ask me to put everything away in the locker and never employ maids in the house just like that,” she adds. The case was being investigated by senior PI Ravindranath Pawar of Versova police station and cops had detained the two servants and the watchman of Rupali’s posh society, Bianca. The con woman was captured on CCTV cameras and was earlier seen at highrises in Charkop and Kandivili as well. The cops believe Sarita used the same modus operandi to loot unsuspecting, rich people. 

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Ego

Ego, it's not worth it
EGO: Three letters that stop us from saying the three words that our hearts are dying to say like ‘I love you’, ‘I am sorry’, ‘Please forgive me’, ‘I miss you’.
EGO: Thatcentres on ‘me’ rather than ‘we’.
EGO: That has no relationship skills and only creates conflicts.
EGO: The death of happiness.

Ego is essentially an illusion -- an exaggerated notion we have of ourselves, which is not reality. It creates chaos within and around us, creating unhappiness. An egoist has a grandiose sense of self importance, is rigid, attention-seeking and uncompromising in behaviour, constantly blaming others, complaining and avoiding any responsibility for the problem or the solution, needing excessive admiration, constantly expecting special treatment, envious, has a haughty attitude, unable to accept a mistake and apologise and unable to see good in others. That’s a lot to handle for one person!

No one is born with an ego. Ego comes in when emotional needs are not met; life becomes a constant struggle, fending off loneliness, fear, emptiness and rejection. This lack is compensated by domination and a superiority complex. As a society we need to be concerned that this type of behaviour is on the rise. We are constantly trying to be cleverer, more talented, and more attractive than the next person. We have trouble accepting criticism and extending empathy because we are too busy being judgemental and are too pre-occupied with our own lives. Expectations are just too high. It starts at home where undue pressure is placed on children to outdo each other. In the work place, friendships and even parenting, the pervading culture seems to have become one of competitiveness, superiority and one-upmanship. Egoist attitudes adversely affect workplace and personal relationships and worse still, these traits continue to transmit to the successive generations of offspring. As the ego becomes strong, it surrounds intelligence with a thick layer of darkness making our minds become closed and impenetrable.

Love, compassion and acceptance of self are what it takes to let go of one’s ego and all the conditioning that goes with it. Ego can never be fully eradicated, but the moment we become aware of our ego, it ceases to be ego, but just an old conditioned pattern. According to Osho, any action that leads to misery comes from a space of ego; if it leads to a beautiful feeling of blessedness, it was from nature as anything from nature is harmonious and just fits in. He also advises noticing the intention behind each action and not being in a hurry to sacrifice ego or else the greatest egoist is born. The person, who thinks he is humble and has no ego, is the biggest egoist of all. This is the same story played on a subtle level.

When nails grow long, we cut the nails not the fingers; similarly, when misunderstandings crop up, we need to cut the ego not the relationship. When you truly care for someone then mistakes should not change your feelings towards them because it is the mind that gets angry, but the heart always cares. No relationship dies a natural death; it is killed by ego, attitude and ignorance. Romantic heartbreak has got to do more with ego and pride than of the actual loss.

As ego is dropped, love, peace and happiness arrive from all directions. It becomes easier to live in the present moment and to enjoy life to the fullest. Accessing our inner courage, calm and gratitude, breathing these qualities throughout our beings and choosing our words, thoughts and actions in alignment, can quickly change situations for the better. The idea is to consciously sail away from ego battles into calmer waters of real love.


As Julian Michaels rightly said, “A bad day for your ego is a good day for your soul.”

Article Credit : http://www.hindustantimes.com/

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