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Showing posts with label Domestic Violence. Show all posts

Thursday, March 6, 2014

Domestic violence

 

Domestic violence, also known as domestic abuse, spousal abuse, battering, family violence, dating abuse, and intimate partner violence (IPV), is a pattern of behavior which involves the abuse by one partner against another in an intimate relationship such as marriage, cohabitation, dating or within the family. Domestic violence can take many forms, including physical aggression or assault (hitting, kicking, biting, shoving, restraining, slapping, throwing objects, battery), or threats thereof; sexual abuse; controlling or domineering; intimidation; stalking; passive/covert abuse (e.g., neglect); and economic deprivation.

Alcohol consumption and mental illnesscan be co-morbid with abuse, and present additional challenges in eliminating domestic violence. Awareness, perception, definition and documentation of domestic violence differs widely from country to country, and from era to era.

Domestic violence and abuse is not limited to obvious physical violence. Domestic violence can also mean endangerment, criminal coercion, kidnapping, unlawful imprisonment, trespassing, harassment, and stalking.
Laws on domestic violence vary by country. While it is generally outlawed in the Western World, this is not the case in many developing countries. For instance, in 2010, the United Arab Emirates's Supreme Court ruled that a man has the right to physically discipline his wife and children as long as he does not leave physical marks. The social acceptability of domestic violence also differs by country. While in most developed countries domestic violence is considered unacceptable by most people, in many regions of the world the views are different: according to a UNICEF survey, the percentage of women aged 15–49 who think that a husband is justified in hitting or beating his wife under certain circumstances is, for example: 90% in Afghanistan and Jordan, 87% in Mali, 86% in Guinea and Timor-Leste, 81% in Laos, 80% in Central African Republic. Refusing to submit to a husband's wishes is a common reason given for justification of violence in developing countries: for instance 62.4% of women in Tajikistan justify wife beating if the wife goes out without telling the husband; 68% if she argues with him; 47.9% if she refuses to have sex with him.

Traditionally, in most cultures, men had a legal right to use violence to "discipline" their wives. Although in the US and many European countries this right was removed from them in the late 19th/early 20th century, before the 1970s criminal arrests were very rare (occurring only in cases of extreme violence), and it was only in the 1990s that rigorous enforcement of laws against domestic violence became standard policy in Western countries.

Wednesday, July 20, 2011

Domestic Violence

No woman deserves physical or emotional abuse. Abuse destroys a woman's spirit and leaves her incapable of creating her future and enjoying her life. The goal of an abuser is to gain complete control over the victim and turn her into his puppet. It is crucial to notice the warning signs of abuse early so that you can move out of the relationship before it is too late, or get your partner the professional help he needs.

Instructions

    • 1
      Observe for signs of intense jealousy in the man. Abusers mask their feelings of suspicion and insecurity by exhibiting jealousy. An abusive man wants to know where you go every day and with whom, and what you talk about with your friends and family. Notice whether he calls you up every now and then or turns up at your place unexpectedly; this is a way to keep track of what you are doing. Beware if he gives clichéd reasons for his jealousy such as: he loves you so much that he cannot stay away from you for long and cannot bear sharing you with others.
    • 2
      Watch out for sudden mood changes. An abuser is happy one minute and angry the next, confusing and frightening you with his unpredictability; this is also a way of gaining control over you. Look for signs of extreme emotional reactions to even normal day-to-day things such as waiting in a queue; he behaves as if these are gross injustices that he does not definitely deserve.
    • 3
      Look for signs of violent behavior when he does not get his way. Such behavior includes yelling, banging doors and breaking things around you. Sometimes, abusers even direct their violence on children and pets, hitting or kicking them, to show you what they are capable of. The intention is to frighten you to compliance. Such people turn violent during arguments when they see they are not able to force you to agree with them. Such violent behavior can gradually grow into physical abuse.
    • 4
      Watch how he treats you in front of family and friends. An abusive man does not hesitate to shout at or humiliate his partner in front of others, saying things like "Your getting a promotion is nothing. Even a high school dropout can do the job you do." "You can't cook well or raise children properly." He does not respect her as a person or appreciate her achievements in life. This develops a feeling of insecurity and a decrease in self-worth in the woman, and she starts depending on the abuser to make her decisions.
    • 5
      Watch out if he plays the blame game. Abusers never take responsibility for their violent or demeaning behavior. They turn it on you convincing you that you deserved to be treated so. They say things like, "It's because I love you so much, baby. It hurts me when you talk against me and refuse to do as I say." Another well-known characteristic of an abuser is that he apologizes and cries after being physically violent with you. He pleads with you, says he cannot bear if you leave him, and promises not to repeat his behavior, a promise he never keeps.
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